question, what should i do?

me and my husband have been together for 3 years and married for 6 months now we have been trying to have a ual relationship but we cant because it is to painful for me when we have it fells like he is hitting a wall inside me and i get a burning sensation we have been to many doctors and they say there is nothing physically wrong with me it is only mentally so how can i get past this my doctor said that one of the problems is that i have never given myself self pleasure also i was d when i was younger it has caused trauma so when i have it gives me that same feeling as if i was being d me and my husband have tried many things to get past it but it just doesn't work we don't really kiss or anything anymore because it will lead into something else and we have tried to have and i would just tell him to force himself on me but he said that he couldn't because it made him feel like he was raping me so what should i do i feel like this is going to break us apart